Day Twenty-Four Reflection

 
 

Day Twenty-Four Reflection

Practicing Forgiveness as a Choice

Reflection By Scott Stoner


Robert Enright, one of the leading researchers on forgiveness, is the founder of the International Forgiveness Institute. He is also the author of Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope. On the website of the Institute he offers the following definition of forgiveness:

When unjustly hurt by another, we forgive when we overcome the resentment toward the offender, not by denying our right to the resentment, but instead by trying to offer the wrongdoer compassion, benevolence, and love; as we give these, we as forgivers realize that the offender does not necessarily have a right to such gifts.

In this definition, we clearly see that forgiveness is a choice. When a person chooses to let go of their right to be resentful, they can begin the process of forgiveness. This is a choice because it involves making a conscious decision to release the “right to the resentment.” 

The definition goes on to say that to offer compassion and love to someone who has offended us is to offer that person a gift. And, as with any gift, forgiveness is always a choice; it is always a gift we can choose to give or to withhold. 

Making It Personal: 
Reread Robert Enright’s definition of forgiveness. What stands out for you as you read this? Does his definition connect with your own experience? Do you think it is missing anything? 


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